So my wife and I are on this journey together. Actually, my wife is on this journey and I am along for the ride! My wife is becoming a surrogate mother for a wonderful couple! It is becoming official today as she will be receiving the embryo today via embryo transfer.If you want to know more details on the whole surrogacy process I have a post on mywifethestork.com here.
Anyways she will be carrying a baby for 9 months that isn’t hers. This is definitely a different feeling of excitement that I am experiencing. I would have to say that it is a bit less of a selfish excitement and more of I’m happy and excited that my wife is doing something that means so much to her, and that she is experiencing pure joy. I love seeing my wife being this happy and I am glad that I am a part of it.
When I tell people about this whole surrogacy process one question comes up every time and that question is this: “Will you or your wife not have an emotional attachment to the baby?” This is how I answer: “I don’t know.” I can only speculate because I am not at that point yet where I would be able to have an attachment, and neither is my wife. I speculate that I will have an easier time than her being as even with my own child I wasn’t super attached until I held her for the first time. Don’t get me wrong I loved and cared for my baby before she was born, I just didn’t feel a strong attachment because I couldn’t hold her, or physically see her or hear her. My wife, on the other hand, was carrying her, felt her every move, spend the whole 9 months with her, so of course, she was able to become attached. Now I feel like my wife will be successful as well to not have a strong attachment because of the sole fact of the joy that she is giving the intended parents by doing this for them will outweigh the emotional attachment to the baby. We can’t tell for sure how attached we will be until we get there, and to me that is ok.
We can only take one day at a time. Both my wife and I, and the intended parents would like to see our relationships grow between us, maybe become really good friends, and even maybe consider each of us family. I see us at least being good friends at the end of this surrogacy because everything is going well between us now, the vibes are all good, and our personalities complement each other well. I encourage you to follow my blog My Wife the Stork if you would like to stay up to date on our journey through this surrogacy. This is from the perspective of the partner(me). I hope to see you there! I welcome any questions you may have about anything!
My Wife the Stork is my blog about my wife’s surrogacy journey from my perspective. If you are interested please take a look and tell me what you think! My post today is here. I describe the process of becoming a surrogate. I hope you enjoy!
Juicy. One of the most satisfying descriptions you can give something. Everyone wants a big fat juicy steak, juicy melons, or even juicy details on the latest gossip. No matter what it is, if something is juicy it makes your mouth water. You start craving the very thing before you consume it. You can taste it already and you haven’t even yet taken a bite. Man, this is making me hungry! I can also taste the fresh squeezed lemonade already! I don’t know where to go with this post so here is a picture of a juicy steak: Image Souce
Today I don’t feel like doing squat! I just want to sit back and relax. I wouldn’t mind a long drive down a coastal highway or a nice quiet retreat into the woods. I’ll bring my fishing poles while I’m at it and who cares if a catch anything or not because I wouldn’t be at work today. I’d rather be sitting with my wife, holding her just doing nothing at all than being at this place of forced productivity. Building blocks with my almost two-year-old or playing cars would satisfy my desire to be doing anything but work. Why is is that we work to live? I wish I could be in a situation where I live to work, and live to play, and live just to live. I dream of being able to wake up with my wife every day just to spend the majority of the day with her and my child. I desire to not have to feel the need to have to work the majority of my time awake. Days like today are the days I dream the most of doing Squat!
The best sound is silence. It’s something about the way you can really hear everything in silence. You can hear nature going on about its business, you can hear your thoughts clearly, and you heart suddenly doesn’t have to yell at you to get your attention. Prayer and meditation are heightened to their most effective capability. Calmness is free to move over you. If life is too hectic like you are falling through the sky silence can ground you. Silence can force you into deep thought and can ease an anxious soul. It is profound what we can achieve, what we can hear, and what we can discover in silence.
Outside of silence, other sources of sound can have a profound impact on our lives. Music being the number one motivator. Different music has different effects on us. Through happiness and sadness, through love and anger, through motivation and discouragement, we find different ways we can relate to music. Music can lift us up from our lowest points, or it can break down our walls as it tugs on the strings of our hearts. The vibrations can stir quite strong emotions in our soul. Music can bring us together, and also drive us apart. The beauty of music is that there is something out there for all of us for any occasion. Some find their home in music, and some are reminded of home. Music is an expression of the soul.
Are you living your life to the fullest, or are you just letting it pass you by? Do you just sit and wait for things to happen, or do you go out and seek adventure? It boils down to is the glass half full in your life or is it half empty? If it isn’t at least half full then it might as well be empty because life is too short to be down and depressed. A negative outlook on life will no doubt bring negative experiences your way, and yet bad things happen to everyone, they people who decide to turn it around and make the best out of it usually feel like they are getting the most out of their life. I feel like most of society today is lukewarm, they are unhappy with how they are living their life but they don’t feel any sense of urgency to change their situation, they are lukewarm. Lukewarm people are not the most desired to be around if you are a “hot or cold” person. People that are “hot” have passion that everyone can see and these people tend to always love life, and even if they are not successful in the aspect of wealth, they tend to be rich in love, family and true friends. “cold” people are not necessarily opposite of a “hot” person though contrary to what you may think. I see “cold” people as someone that has come to terms with what life has given them, they may be content with their life, but are not engaged in a passionate life long pursuit. These people end up not liking a lot of change or excitement in their life and just want to live out their life how it is. “Hot” people and “cold” people both love their life, “hot” usually welcome change and challenge in their life, and “cold” people would care less if anything changed at all. A “lukewarm” person lacks passion, and can not find contentment in their life. They tend to whine about how their life isn’t how they want it, but they do not have any real desire to change their situation. Being “lukewarm” is something we all should try to avoid.
I am aware of how fast my child is growing up. I cannot grasp the time spent fast enough. Everyone always says “Enjoy it while it lasts, because before long they will be grown up.” There are times when we take for granted the time we get here on earth, and the time that we are able to spend with our loved ones and children. Some of us don’t realize what we missed until it’s gone. I know I have, and sadly I have a feeling it will happen again, and again. I do come across moments where I just know that I need to cherish it. I clear my mind of whatever I was thinking about and I just give to the moment, soaking up all it has to offer. My child snuggling up next to me while watching cartoons or just a few moments of silent embrace with my wife, I try to hold on to that moment, that feeling as long as I can, and sometimes I’m painfully aware that it may never happen again in this uncertain life. It makes me want to re-engage into that moment. I find that when I am aware that I’m stuck in a job that I don’t want to be at because I want to be spending my time with my family that I would give almost anything to be able to use all my time with them. Out of all the currencies in the world, time is the most valuable, and yet we tend to live life like we are time billionaires where in reality we are just above the poverty line. I know this couple that has this motto, “Do what you love and love what you do.” and I find profound beauty in that statement for the sole fact of the famous saying “If you are doing what you love to do you will not have worked a day in your life.” Living this, I feel will cause you to be able to make wise “purchases” with your time.