I just want something better. I want something better for my family. I don’t want just some ordinary 9 to 5 lifestyle. Life is too short for that. I want to always be improving my standard of living and I don’t want to slide back and I sure as hell don’t want to stagnate. The ordinary robs us of our true joy, we are not some machine that is supposed to repeat the same thing over and over. We are meant to have extraordinary lives. To experience the greatness and beauty this world has to offer.
It doesn’t help that we was media that only wants to report what is popular, what ultimately will make them the most money no matter hoeuch they have to exaggerate and twist the truth. It makes me sick, I just want to leave it all behind. People are blinded by media, and their view forced on us, and it turns us against each other. It causes us to divide and causes strife. I am heartbroken for my daughter that this is the work she is coming into. Thinking about it drive Spike in my heart. I just hope that she can be better than the rest of the world and have a positive impact in our society. Rant over.
Happiness. Is it something that is reflected off the surface, or does it shine from the inside? Is it something given, or is it earned? Can you achieve it or does happiness find you? Let me tell you that it can be one of these things or all of them. Happiness isn’t confined to one obtainable source, and not everyone is lucky enough to stumble upon it, but there is something that everyone can do to provide it to someone else.
Happiness can be generated by ourselves by what we achieve, and the gifts we give. It can come as a realization of contentment or in pursuit of your dreams. It can come from a spouse, a friend, a child, or even an enemy. It can come from a game, a job, a place, a car or any other object, but it isn’t where it comes from that matters. What matters is where it goes.
Lives are changed by happiness. When we are happy we feel like we are on top of the world, that nothing can bring us down, that we are Champions. We are on a euphoric high that can be very contagious. Happiness is something that we all should strive to share, to create. We do have to be careful though because happiness can consume, and cripple. If we let someone else’s happiness get in the way of our own, we start to lose our own happiness. We have to know when enough is enough and when to focus on ourselves. Happiness requires balance.
Ordinary bores me. It is a dull hum in a busy world. What I would do to not have an ordinary life! If you want to change you have to do something about it. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result. Most of us meet this definition. We cry and complain about not having this awesome life but we don’t do anything to change our situation. Our heart wants these desires to come true but if we don’t make a logical path to those desires and follow through with action all we are doing is dreaming about one life, and living another. Unless you have tried and keep trying you have no right to complain. Why should anyone feel sorry for anyone not living how they want to live without putting any effort at all? We shouldn’t. If you want something, work for it, and depending on what it is you may have to put a ridiculous amount of effort into it, or it may be something that can come easily to you. Everything has a cost to it whether it is time, money, friends, family or whatever and if you are not willing to pay then you need to deal with it. Life isn’t easy, and it isn’t meant to be. The most fulfillment you can get from something usually comes from the things you struggled with the most but overcame. We are not entitled to anything we did not work for. Okay, rant over.
Life is written in permanent ink. That ink is time, and the motion that writes is our actions. What you are writing on depends on what legacy you leave behind. Is what you did in your life memorable or did it have an impact? Or were you behind the scenes, or without achievement? Everything we do has a chance to be remembered. We should all live with a consciousness that everything we do will have a consequence, whether good or bad. The trail we leave behind, our footprint will be felt by generations after us. This earth has a finite amount of resources and we will run out if we continue our lives like we are today. The more we care for the earth, the more it will be able to give us. I don’t know about you but I would love to have my future generations enjoy this earth in all its beauty just as we are able to. Ok, rant over.
So my wife and I are on this journey together. Actually, my wife is on this journey and I am along for the ride! My wife is becoming a surrogate mother for a wonderful couple! It is becoming official today as she will be receiving the embryo today via embryo transfer.If you want to know more details on the whole surrogacy process I have a post on mywifethestork.com here.
Anyways she will be carrying a baby for 9 months that isn’t hers. This is definitely a different feeling of excitement that I am experiencing. I would have to say that it is a bit less of a selfish excitement and more of I’m happy and excited that my wife is doing something that means so much to her, and that she is experiencing pure joy. I love seeing my wife being this happy and I am glad that I am a part of it.
When I tell people about this whole surrogacy process one question comes up every time and that question is this: “Will you or your wife not have an emotional attachment to the baby?” This is how I answer: “I don’t know.” I can only speculate because I am not at that point yet where I would be able to have an attachment, and neither is my wife. I speculate that I will have an easier time than her being as even with my own child I wasn’t super attached until I held her for the first time. Don’t get me wrong I loved and cared for my baby before she was born, I just didn’t feel a strong attachment because I couldn’t hold her, or physically see her or hear her. My wife, on the other hand, was carrying her, felt her every move, spend the whole 9 months with her, so of course, she was able to become attached. Now I feel like my wife will be successful as well to not have a strong attachment because of the sole fact of the joy that she is giving the intended parents by doing this for them will outweigh the emotional attachment to the baby. We can’t tell for sure how attached we will be until we get there, and to me that is ok.
We can only take one day at a time. Both my wife and I, and the intended parents would like to see our relationships grow between us, maybe become really good friends, and even maybe consider each of us family. I see us at least being good friends at the end of this surrogacy because everything is going well between us now, the vibes are all good, and our personalities complement each other well. I encourage you to follow my blog My Wife the Stork if you would like to stay up to date on our journey through this surrogacy. This is from the perspective of the partner(me). I hope to see you there! I welcome any questions you may have about anything!
Juicy. One of the most satisfying descriptions you can give something. Everyone wants a big fat juicy steak, juicy melons, or even juicy details on the latest gossip. No matter what it is, if something is juicy it makes your mouth water. You start craving the very thing before you consume it. You can taste it already and you haven’t even yet taken a bite. Man, this is making me hungry! I can also taste the fresh squeezed lemonade already! I don’t know where to go with this post so here is a picture of a juicy steak: Image Souce
Today I don’t feel like doing squat! I just want to sit back and relax. I wouldn’t mind a long drive down a coastal highway or a nice quiet retreat into the woods. I’ll bring my fishing poles while I’m at it and who cares if a catch anything or not because I wouldn’t be at work today. I’d rather be sitting with my wife, holding her just doing nothing at all than being at this place of forced productivity. Building blocks with my almost two-year-old or playing cars would satisfy my desire to be doing anything but work. Why is is that we work to live? I wish I could be in a situation where I live to work, and live to play, and live just to live. I dream of being able to wake up with my wife every day just to spend the majority of the day with her and my child. I desire to not have to feel the need to have to work the majority of my time awake. Days like today are the days I dream the most of doing Squat!
The best sound is silence. It’s something about the way you can really hear everything in silence. You can hear nature going on about its business, you can hear your thoughts clearly, and you heart suddenly doesn’t have to yell at you to get your attention. Prayer and meditation are heightened to their most effective capability. Calmness is free to move over you. If life is too hectic like you are falling through the sky silence can ground you. Silence can force you into deep thought and can ease an anxious soul. It is profound what we can achieve, what we can hear, and what we can discover in silence.
Outside of silence, other sources of sound can have a profound impact on our lives. Music being the number one motivator. Different music has different effects on us. Through happiness and sadness, through love and anger, through motivation and discouragement, we find different ways we can relate to music. Music can lift us up from our lowest points, or it can break down our walls as it tugs on the strings of our hearts. The vibrations can stir quite strong emotions in our soul. Music can bring us together, and also drive us apart. The beauty of music is that there is something out there for all of us for any occasion. Some find their home in music, and some are reminded of home. Music is an expression of the soul.
Are you living your life to the fullest, or are you just letting it pass you by? Do you just sit and wait for things to happen, or do you go out and seek adventure? It boils down to is the glass half full in your life or is it half empty? If it isn’t at least half full then it might as well be empty because life is too short to be down and depressed. A negative outlook on life will no doubt bring negative experiences your way, and yet bad things happen to everyone, they people who decide to turn it around and make the best out of it usually feel like they are getting the most out of their life. I feel like most of society today is lukewarm, they are unhappy with how they are living their life but they don’t feel any sense of urgency to change their situation, they are lukewarm. Lukewarm people are not the most desired to be around if you are a “hot or cold” person. People that are “hot” have passion that everyone can see and these people tend to always love life, and even if they are not successful in the aspect of wealth, they tend to be rich in love, family and true friends. “cold” people are not necessarily opposite of a “hot” person though contrary to what you may think. I see “cold” people as someone that has come to terms with what life has given them, they may be content with their life, but are not engaged in a passionate life long pursuit. These people end up not liking a lot of change or excitement in their life and just want to live out their life how it is. “Hot” people and “cold” people both love their life, “hot” usually welcome change and challenge in their life, and “cold” people would care less if anything changed at all. A “lukewarm” person lacks passion, and can not find contentment in their life. They tend to whine about how their life isn’t how they want it, but they do not have any real desire to change their situation. Being “lukewarm” is something we all should try to avoid.