Have you ever thought to yourself, ” I look great in this suit or dress.”? Have you ever felt that when you dress up that you are more confident and successful? It is a proven fact that when you put more time into yourself, you will feel better about yourself. When we work on getting our makeup perfect when that tie is tied just right and your hair is held in place exactly where you want it, and when you look in the mirror and see something so perfectly put together you just can’t help but to smile. Our confidence goes up and sometimes our ego as well. We are ready to take on the day…or night. What happens though when we spill that red wine on our white undershirt or smear the makeup on our face? What happens to our confidence? One little mishap and we feel far from confident. We feel embarrassed, shamed and we start to hide from others as we retreat to the bathroom or another private place in order to try and salvage what we have left. Makeup can be fixed, and a stain can be lifted, as long as you are prepared for it. Now as this applies to the literal sense of what I am saying I am trying to convey a deeper meaning in what I write.
You see in life we are preparing ourselves to be the best we can be, we get excited, a little bit nervous, and when we feel like we are done preparing ourselves we feel relief, joy, and excitement. Take a college grad for example, no, in fact, let’s start with a high school grad. During the 4 years of high school, you are preparing yourself for the adult world that exists beyond the classroom doors. You have projects and homework and studies. Those who put a good effort into those things graduate near the top of their class, and these are the people to look up to. Nevertheless, everyone who has graduated has at least put in the bare minimum to graduate. So you did it, you graduated. You are ready for the world. Everything is awesome and new and you feel like you accomplished something great! You can go about your life with your head held high but then your makeup smears. You have to find a job if you don’t already have one, or you start college. I’m not going to go into the other option of doing neither because I’m not discussing dependant people today. You get hit with the hard decisions of being an adult, and actually, some choices like college or job are given to you before you graduate.
If you are not prepared to make these choices it can have an everlasting impact on your life. Situations can arise that will put off any plans you have made. College-bound people can struggle to find financial aid, or they have to put in extra time in the junior college before they attend university. Other that choose to work may be going into a tough job market and can’t find work for the better part of the year. Whatever it is the stain on your shirt has to be dealt with. Some will throw the shirt way, and some will treat the stain, some will get the stain out, and some will set the stain in never to be removed. To throw the shirt away is to abandon your original plan and to go a different direction, to treat the stain is to try and amend your situation to make it better, if the amendment works the stain is lifted and you continue with your plan, if the stain is set then you have another choice, continue with the stain or change shirts.
To continue with a stain is to learning to live with something that cannot be changed and accepting it as is. Changing your shirt is accepting the fact that some things will not change and that you have to change your plans to pursue something different. I give the example of high school grads but it applies to everyone, kids, high school grads, college grads, working adults with a degree and without. We can’t go through life stain free, it just won’t happen, so we need to prepare, not just initially for the night but for the chance that we smudge our makeup, or stain our shirt because we never know what life will throw at us. What defines us as a person is what we do in the face of adversity.