So my wife and I are on this journey together. Actually, my wife is on this journey and I am along for the ride! My wife is becoming a surrogate mother for a wonderful couple! It is becoming official today as she will be receiving the embryo today via embryo transfer.If you want to know more details on the whole surrogacy process I have a post on mywifethestork.com here.
Anyways she will be carrying a baby for 9 months that isn’t hers. This is definitely a different feeling of excitement that I am experiencing. I would have to say that it is a bit less of a selfish excitement and more of I’m happy and excited that my wife is doing something that means so much to her, and that she is experiencing pure joy. I love seeing my wife being this happy and I am glad that I am a part of it.
When I tell people about this whole surrogacy process one question comes up every time and that question is this: “Will you or your wife not have an emotional attachment to the baby?” This is how I answer: “I don’t know.” I can only speculate because I am not at that point yet where I would be able to have an attachment, and neither is my wife. I speculate that I will have an easier time than her being as even with my own child I wasn’t super attached until I held her for the first time. Don’t get me wrong I loved and cared for my baby before she was born, I just didn’t feel a strong attachment because I couldn’t hold her, or physically see her or hear her. My wife, on the other hand, was carrying her, felt her every move, spend the whole 9 months with her, so of course, she was able to become attached. Now I feel like my wife will be successful as well to not have a strong attachment because of the sole fact of the joy that she is giving the intended parents by doing this for them will outweigh the emotional attachment to the baby. We can’t tell for sure how attached we will be until we get there, and to me that is ok.
We can only take one day at a time. Both my wife and I, and the intended parents would like to see our relationships grow between us, maybe become really good friends, and even maybe consider each of us family. I see us at least being good friends at the end of this surrogacy because everything is going well between us now, the vibes are all good, and our personalities complement each other well. I encourage you to follow my blog My Wife the Stork if you would like to stay up to date on our journey through this surrogacy. This is from the perspective of the partner(me). I hope to see you there! I welcome any questions you may have about anything!