Stained Shirts and Smudged Makeup

Have you ever thought to yourself, ” I look great in this suit or dress.”? Have you ever felt that when you dress up that you are more confident and successful? It is a proven fact that when you put more time into yourself, you will feel better about yourself. When we work on getting our makeup perfect when that tie is tied just right and your hair is held in place exactly where you want it, and when you look in the mirror and see something so perfectly put together you just can’t help but to smile. Our confidence goes up and sometimes our ego as well. We are ready to take on the day…or night. What happens though when we spill that red wine on our white undershirt or smear the makeup on our face? What happens to our confidence? One little mishap and we feel far from confident. We feel embarrassed, shamed and we start to hide from others as we retreat to the bathroom or another private place in order to try and salvage what we have left. Makeup can be fixed, and a stain can be lifted, as long as you are prepared for it. Now as this applies to the literal sense of what I am saying I am trying to convey a deeper meaning in what I write.

You see in life we are preparing ourselves to be the best we can be, we get excited, a little bit nervous, and when we feel like we are done preparing ourselves we feel relief, joy, and excitement. Take a college grad for example, no, in fact, let’s start with a high school grad. During the 4 years of high school, you are preparing yourself for the adult world that exists beyond the classroom doors. You have projects and homework and studies. Those who put a good effort into those things graduate near the top of their class, and these are the people to look up to. Nevertheless, everyone who has graduated has at least put in the bare minimum to graduate. So you did it, you graduated. You are ready for the world. Everything is awesome and new and you feel like you accomplished something great! You can go about your life with your head held high but then your makeup smears. You have to find a job if you don’t already have one, or you start college. I’m not going to go into the other option of doing neither because I’m not discussing dependant people today. You get hit with the hard decisions of being an adult, and actually, some choices like college or job are given to you before you graduate.

If you are not prepared to make these choices it can have an everlasting impact on your life. Situations can arise that will put off any plans you have made. College-bound people can struggle to find financial aid, or they have to put in extra time in the junior college before they attend university. Other that choose to work may be going into a tough job market and can’t find work for the better part of the year. Whatever it is the stain on your shirt has to be dealt with. Some will throw the shirt way, and some will treat the stain, some will get the stain out, and some will set the stain in never to be removed. To throw the shirt away is to abandon your original plan and to go a different direction, to treat the stain is to try and amend your situation to make it better, if the amendment works the stain is lifted and you continue with your plan, if the stain is set then you have another choice, continue with the stain or change shirts.

To continue with a stain is to learning to live with something that cannot be changed and accepting it as is. Changing your shirt is accepting the fact that some things will not change and that you have to change your plans to pursue something different. I give the example of high school grads but it applies to everyone, kids, high school grads, college grads, working adults with a degree and without.  We can’t go through life stain free, it just won’t happen, so we need to prepare, not just initially for the night but for the chance that we smudge our makeup, or stain our shirt because we never know what life will throw at us. What defines us as a person is what we do in the face of adversity.

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Ordinary

Ordinary bores me. It is a dull hum in a busy world. What I would do to not have an ordinary life! If you want to change you have to do something about it. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result. Most of us meet this definition. We cry and complain about not having this awesome life but we don’t do anything to change our situation. Our heart wants these desires to come true but if we don’t make a logical path to those desires and follow through with action all we are doing is dreaming about one life, and living another. Unless you have tried and keep trying you have no right to complain. Why should anyone feel sorry for anyone not living how they want to live without putting any effort at all? We shouldn’t. If you want something, work for it, and depending on what it is you may have to put a ridiculous amount of effort into it, or it may be something that can come easily to you. Everything has a cost to it whether it is time, money, friends, family or whatever and if you are not willing to pay then you need to deal with it. Life isn’t easy, and it isn’t meant to be. The most fulfillment you can get from something usually comes from the things you struggled with the most but overcame. We are not entitled to anything we did not work for. Okay, rant over.

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Doubt

My number one battle is against Doubt. It is a fight against what I want to achieve versus what I think I can achieve. I have never really had much confidence in myself and I always underestimate myself and the things I create. I feel like most things I make are only so-so and not spectacular. One thing I can tell you is that I have amazing people around me that show me different. They boost me up and make me see that the work I do is actually better than so-so. It still may not be the best but it isn’t as bad as I think it is. Right now I’m a journey of self-discovery. I am trying to find what I would love to do for the rest of my life, what career I will have and how we will raise our daughter. I really want to break free from a 9 to 5 job and be able to be my own boss, work my own schedule and not just work a system like Uber where the payout isn’t all that great. I’m talking about having a successful blog, maybe write a book or two, or something else online. Maybe I could just bee a freelance writer. At this point, I’m not sure, but I know that I want to be able to have more family time. I also want to be able to help my wife reach her dream of having a nice self-sustaining homestead complete with farm animals and garden, especially with Bessie the cow providing us some fresh milk! Doubt gets in the way of all of this because we are comfortable with taking to risk. We grow complacent in where we are and when we have an idea we tend to quickly shut it down because it doesn’t fit into our current lifestyle. If we are going to reach our dreams, reach our goals, we need to ditch doubt and believe that we are capable of doing a lot more than what we give ourselves credit for.

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Daydreaming About Squat.

Today I don’t feel like doing squat! I just want to sit back and relax. I wouldn’t mind a long drive down a coastal highway or a nice quiet retreat into the woods. I’ll bring my fishing poles while I’m at it and who cares if a catch anything or not because I wouldn’t be at work today. I’d rather be sitting with my wife, holding her just doing nothing at all than being at this place of forced productivity. Building blocks with my almost two-year-old or playing cars would satisfy my desire to be doing anything but work. Why is is that we work to live? I wish I could be in a situation where I live to work, and live to play, and live just to live. I dream of being able to wake up with my wife every day just to spend the majority of the day with her and my child. I desire to not have to feel the need to have to work the majority of my time awake. Days like today are the days I dream the most of doing Squat!

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